How to Approach a Guy

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blowing a kissYou might think it’s a guy’s job to approach the girl. You might think it’s inappropriate to, or will appear desperate, for you to make the first move. Or you might just simply be terrified of rejection. But the truth is, when you approach a guy, he’ll be taken aback and you’ve instantly secured the upper hand. In encounters with the opposite sex, even that small advantage can make or break control of the outcome.

 

The Eyes Have It

Direct eye contact from across the room is the easiest way to let a guy know you’re interested. Do it repeatedly and you’ll soon find most of the work of The Approach is already done. If necessary, work on your look. Try the Stare-Bashfully Avert Your Eyes-Get Caught Staring Again model. Or the Half Smiling-Little-Hand-Wave rendition. Try out different repertoires in different situations, and see what works best.

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Fly Solo

Guys out on their own are a dime a dozen, but everyone knows hot girls travel in packs. If you’ve drifted away from your herd, you’re a stray cat on the prowl and need some petting. You’re on a hunt that’s all about you and no one else. Just be careful to appear independent, but not desperate.

 

Compliment Him

If you’re the type who throws caution to the wind, you can always go the complimentary route. If you are sartorially well-versed and spot a guy in, say, Armani, walk up and compliment him on it. Even if you’re wrong, if you can at least spot a nice suit, it will start a conversation. Just keep it going.

 

Ask for Advice or Help

It’s in a male’s nature to protect the females of their species, so take a lesson from Animal Planet. Come up with an elaborate rouse with your girlfriends and make sure they’re in on it. Walk up to him and ask him for his advice on a problem with your girlfriend — she’s having this issue with her boyfriend that only a man’s perspective can help solve. This has a tandem benefit: 1. It volunteers the information that you’re single: If you were in a relationship, you would have simply asked your boyfriend. 2. It makes him feel like he’s solving a problem for you, and you need him (and only him).

 

Go Through His Wingman

The method of approaching his best friend is the least straightforward but often the most effective. It’s also simple: Go up to his friend and ask him one question: “Don’t tell him I asked you, but does your friend have a girlfriend?” You know full well the first thing he’s going to do is tell his friend you’re interested in him. The bonus of this approach is, if it turns out he actually does have a girlfriend, it might turn out you get a shot at the wingman.

 

5 Tricks to Get Her in the Mood Without Even Touching

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get her in the moodHopefully you’re at the point with a girl where you’re not simply praying she goes out on a second date with you. Your work is still not done, however. Keeping a girl in the mood is a battle as constant as regularly flossing. It’s no chore, however. The more creative you are, the more of a challenge it will be — and the more interesting it will be.

Start Flirting Early

There’s nothing worse than a last minute attempt to jump into a girl’s pants at the end of a date. Anyone worth doing is worth doing right, so put in the time and start early. Flirt with her via text while she’s at work. Keep up the momentum with subtle contact throughout the night, such as slipping your hand into her back pocket as you walk along. Give her a light squeeze and a smile every so often to remind her you want her.

 

Location, Location, Location

Pimping out your atmosphere is one of the most effective ways to turn her on. It doesn’t have to be as cliché as incense and rose petals on the bedspread, but don’t underestimate the power of a little ‘Fling’ Shui. Try relaxing the setting with something a little more original, such as running through the sexiest selections in your record collection together. Don’t forget the subdued lighting: a soft pink glow hides many a flaw…and inhibition.

Boost Her Self-Confidence

Don’t talk about other girls you think are hot all night, just keep the focus on her, and how much you want her in less than obvious ways. Go gaga over how cute her toes are, or long her neck is. Compliment her intelligence and wit, with subtlety: “You know I don’t think I know one single person who would ‘get’ that joke…”  She will gain self-confidence and admire you in return, which will go a long way later when you’re taking her clothes off.

Dominance

Women generally want a man to take control — just don’t take it too far. You don’t want to get rape-y or forceful, just use your natural advantages to dominate her. When the date is winding down, say as a matter of fact that she’s staying at your place tonight. When she gets all coy and protests, stop her and maintain eye contact until she gives in.

Liquor

When all else fails, get her buzzed. (Note that this says buzzed and not wasted.) No one wants to wake up with regret in the morning — wondering what the hell you’ve done is a major turn off.

 

How To Handle An Office Fling

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office flingBeen feeling wildly attracted to a co-worker who gets cow eyed and giggly every time he or she walks into the room? What should you do? Well the answer is simple: YOU DO NOTHING! Flings happen all the time and even more in the office. It would be best if you were to play out all your dreams and fantasies in your head, exhausting every romantic notion you feel creeping into your consciousness. Chances are that the butterflies will come and go keep in mind butterflies, both real and metaphorical, have a short lifespan. Here’s how to handle and office fling.

How-To

1. Stay Professional

You have to stay professional in the workplace. If you start behaving in an unprofessional way, then things can get very bad very quickly. By acting professional, however, you xan keep things in perspective…and make sure you keep your job.

2. Don’t Let Them Walk Over You

Feelings can be taken advantage by some people because of their willingness. It can be tempting to invite your fling for lunch or some coffee, but that is human nature. However your crush might not necessarily feel the same way and might be willing to reap the benefits of the nice gestures you give them.

3. Look The Right Way

Not only should you try to avoid staring all googly eyed at your fling while a work, it is also unprofessional to stare like that. Besides, moody stares can reveal your feelings quicker than anything else.

4. Keep Up With Reality

It is not uncommon at all for someone to begin to fantasize or even dream about their office flame. When spending so much time at work, it is hard not to confuse those fantasies with reality, It is important to keep your feet grounded;moreover; keep your fantasy life completely separate from your work life.

5. Be Realistic

Being realistic to the end is another must. Does your company frown upon dating within the office? Does your fling feel the same way about you; as you do with them? Don’t let you common sense be blurred by your feelings; stay leveled headed and keep everything within a realistic perspective

6. Keep Cool

Always keep your cool when possible. Don’t get giggly, don’t let your crush have that effect over you. If needed, just pretend that your fling isn’t there at all, even more so if you need to keep it at a professional level.

7. Weigh the Consequences

If this is what you think you want from your crush; a relationship, you need to being to think about the consequences. What happens if don’t work out? Will this affect your job? You also need to consider how the working conditions will be during and after the relationship. If there are more cons than pros, again keep your fantasy life completely separate from your working life. At the end most office romances do work, but when they don’t it can get a bit awkward.

Is it a Relationship or Summer Fling?

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Summer is the season for pool parties, barbecues, and trips to the beach. For many single people, it is also an opportunity to have a summer fling. All that outdoor activity and summer fun can get people thinking of romance. Sometimes you meet somebody while you’re both on vacation, and you know in advance that when fall comes, you’ll be heading off to different cities.

Whether you’ll be staying in the same place or not at the end of the summer, the question that may be running through your mind is, “Is this just a summer fling, or could it lead to something more serious?” Here are some clues to look for. No single item is an indicator of a long-term relationship, but these are all positive signs.

1. You really like each other

Aside from the lust involved in a new relationship, do you truly enjoy spending time with each other? Do you truly like each other? It’s actually pretty easy to have a fling with somebody who is fun for awhile, knowing that you don’t really like them enough to make it long term. Think about how you feel, and see what you can tell about how they feel, too. If you both really like each other as people, and enjoy your time together, that’s a good start.

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2. You’re comfortable together

You know how some people always put you a little bit on edge, while other people make you instantly feel relaxed? While there’s a thrill to a fling with somebody in the first category, it doesn’t make for a long term relationship. Can you be yourself, or do you always feel like you’re trying to be something you’re not? For your fling to develop into more, you need to feel easy and comfortable around each other.

3. You both act “lovingly”

Does he do the little things that show he cares, like bringing your favorite wine for a romantic picnic? How about on your side? Did you remember his favorite dessert, and make it for him one evening? They say that actions speak louder than words, and that can be very true here. If you are both taking those steps that show you care about the other person, that is a good sign.

4. You have a rare closeness

This is hard to describe, but once you experience it, you know the feeling. When you’re together, you feel a certain rapport. It’s like a special kind of intimacy, and a shared understanding. Sometimes couples feel this very soon after they meet. For other people, it takes some time to develop. However it happens, this closeness can be a sign that you have something special.

Do you think about the future? When you allow yourself to daydream, do you see the two of you together sometime after summer ends? Has either of you ever mentioned getting together after August, like going to a concert together in November, or what you’re doing for Christmas? Even a casual mention can be a sign that there may be more to your romance than a summer fling.

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5 Secrets About Men Sex Ed Didn’t Teach You

Did you know that a recent survey by the CDC indicates that by high school 47% of students say they’ve had sex? However, even though nearly half of all high school students are sexually active, only 22 states in the US are required to teach sex education. Of those states, only 19 require that the sex education courses be medically accurate. Well, we can’t speak to the accuracy of any of the information below but one thing is for sure, even if you did attend a sex education class, they didn’t teach you any of this.

 

They Hate Wearing Condoms

If you had the benefit of attending a sex education class, you probably got a crash course on the proper way to wear a condom. But they they ever bother to teach you about sizes and quality? Chances are that if a rubber feels uncomfortable, it’s for a good reason. Maybe it’s poor quality or too small but the rule of thumb is, it should always feel good.

 

They’re Shallow

On the short list of interests for the “every man” is women… or maybe not women as much as sex itself. Sex and beer. Sex, beer and cars. Wait I was going somewhere with this, I swear.

 

They Love Boobs

It doesn’t matter what anyone says, men love boobs. Did I mention that they’re shallow?

 

 

 

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They Think with Their Penis

Did you ever hear that Chris Rock joke saying that men are only as faithful as his options? Yeah, that’s about right. Some married men may be the exception, but the women know who they are.

 Sex IS a Badge of Honor

At least for guys it is. There’s definitely a stigma against guys who are virgins; especially if they’re older than 18.