Most of the things that I’m going to list that you should never tell your boyfriend/husband should be obvious to you, for you should just know because they’re straight out: Insensitive, insulting, and rude. If you don’t want your guy to tell you that you look fat in a dress, that it’s normal for women “your age” to feel tired or that your new highlights suck, then maybe you slow down with your not very nice comments. Sometimes you may not notice, but most of the time, I bet you know what you’re doing and unless, your guy deserves it, perhaps you should stop, before it gets ugly and “disrespect” from both sides takes over.
Things You Should Never Tell or Ask Your Boyfriend or Husband:
- - Don’t ask him if he needs help lighting up the grill.
These is ridiculous, really… But the fact of the matter, is that barbecuing is like a guy thing. If you ask him if he needs help, even if it’s just the two of you, he’s going to feel embarrassed. Let him figure it out by himself, or maybe if he’s smart enough and not submerged into all this “macho stuff” he’ll seek your help or someone else’s.
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- - Don not say: “Actually it doesn’t happen to every Guy.”
A comment such as this can cause an explosive fight and can you blame him? A comment such as this is not only condensing, but right out insulting. There’s no need to make your guy feel inadequate in any given circumstance. There’s nothing that can make him feel worse and he will grow cold towards you if you continue.
- - Don’t tell him “My dad knows how to fix that- you should call him.”
Again this another petty one. But just let him be. He’s already under enough pressure trying to impress “your dad” and do good by his daughter. Also, it suggests that he’s not very capable. Let him figure it out, which is good.
- - Don’t Ask Him If He’s Crying.
You may not mean to, but since man don’t normally cry in front of people at least, the fact that you ask him, may come out all wrong, making him feel as though he’s less of a man because he is in fact crying. It’s not your fault to be astonished by his display of emotions, but just keep your lips sealed and maybe just put your arm around him and give a nice and affectionate embrace.
- Don’t remind him of the very nice full head of hair he use to have.
He’s probably going through some self esteem issues about it already. This is pretty catastrophic for men. Just because you’re looking at old photos, you don’t need to point this out. It’s insensitive and rude.
I think the main problem with women sometimes saying the wrong things to guys is that we often forget about their very fragile egos. Perhaps, more fragile than women’s egos, because it’s okay for us to complain and whine about stuff, but once a man does it- “it’s unmanly.” It’s an unfair double standard and the world is full of them. It’s really not their fault, as much as it isn’t ours. We just need to be sure not be insensitive and even cruel. Our men do have feelings, self esteems and egos juts as we do.
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