Best Ways To Approach a Girl

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approachIf a girl seems unapproachable, it’s probably because she’s worth the trepidation: the momentary smile, the way she absentmindedly curls her hair around one finger while she chats with friends, the shape of her hips in those jeans. No eye-roll worthy pick-up line is going to suffice — you need to bring a pistol to this knife fight.

 

Be Napolean Bone-aparte

Confidence is key. You’ve got a dog in this race, and by dog we mean, your penis. But don’t let the wrong head craft your war plan. Tread lightly, because even if this isn’t your dream girl, treating the situation like it’s no ordinary come-on will mean success will surely be yours.

 

Leave the Cheese at La Fromagerie

And know what the hell a fromagerie is. It might sound crazy, but you need to have a classy conversation with a girl before you ever ask for her number. Knowing a thing or two about something other than football and basketball is the best way to get her interested. Pull out your smart phone and check what has happened in foreign policy that day, and come up with an intelligent and thought-provoking foray into a conversation. Smart guys are sexy, because they’re usually successful, but don’t sound too nerdy, or she might feel like she showed up to class without studying for the test. If you can sit down next to her, pull out your phone and act like you’re reading the news for the first time, and look over to her as though you just had to get her opinion on what happened.

 

Don’t Be a Guy Friend

The inherent danger in the non-sexual convo approach is that you might actually get along. You might unwittingly stumble into Just-a-friend-ville — and that’s no where you want to be. Make sure she knows you desire her: Every woman is flattered by subtle clues you want her. Make constant intense eye contact (win the staring contest!) and remember details about her life to bring up later in the conversation.

 

Be Sexy, Not Overzealous

In between chapters of conversation, inject delicate flirtations such as handing her a drink but holding it a few seconds too long. How you look at her should (and will) tell her everything about what you want, and who you are. Just don’t be creepy, or you’ve just blown your chances. Subtlety is key, after all, you just met, and she has a lot more to lose than you.

 

Set a Deadline on Your Next Chapter

If she’s worth all of this trouble, then you’re likely not the first suitor she’s encountered, and you’re certainly not the last — or even the best. Make sure you don’t end up a crumpled business card in the bottom of her purse by setting the stage for the next meeting. If you talked about wine, tell her you were thinking about going to a local winery or tasting and ask her along. If she mentioned she hates golf tell her you feel you both should give the entire sport a chance at the putting range. Make sure you’re not just asking her out on ‘to dinner,’ and she’s way more likely to be intrigued.

 

How to Approach a Guy

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blowing a kissYou might think it’s a guy’s job to approach the girl. You might think it’s inappropriate to, or will appear desperate, for you to make the first move. Or you might just simply be terrified of rejection. But the truth is, when you approach a guy, he’ll be taken aback and you’ve instantly secured the upper hand. In encounters with the opposite sex, even that small advantage can make or break control of the outcome.

 

The Eyes Have It

Direct eye contact from across the room is the easiest way to let a guy know you’re interested. Do it repeatedly and you’ll soon find most of the work of The Approach is already done. If necessary, work on your look. Try the Stare-Bashfully Avert Your Eyes-Get Caught Staring Again model. Or the Half Smiling-Little-Hand-Wave rendition. Try out different repertoires in different situations, and see what works best.

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Fly Solo

Guys out on their own are a dime a dozen, but everyone knows hot girls travel in packs. If you’ve drifted away from your herd, you’re a stray cat on the prowl and need some petting. You’re on a hunt that’s all about you and no one else. Just be careful to appear independent, but not desperate.

 

Compliment Him

If you’re the type who throws caution to the wind, you can always go the complimentary route. If you are sartorially well-versed and spot a guy in, say, Armani, walk up and compliment him on it. Even if you’re wrong, if you can at least spot a nice suit, it will start a conversation. Just keep it going.

 

Ask for Advice or Help

It’s in a male’s nature to protect the females of their species, so take a lesson from Animal Planet. Come up with an elaborate rouse with your girlfriends and make sure they’re in on it. Walk up to him and ask him for his advice on a problem with your girlfriend — she’s having this issue with her boyfriend that only a man’s perspective can help solve. This has a tandem benefit: 1. It volunteers the information that you’re single: If you were in a relationship, you would have simply asked your boyfriend. 2. It makes him feel like he’s solving a problem for you, and you need him (and only him).

 

Go Through His Wingman

The method of approaching his best friend is the least straightforward but often the most effective. It’s also simple: Go up to his friend and ask him one question: “Don’t tell him I asked you, but does your friend have a girlfriend?” You know full well the first thing he’s going to do is tell his friend you’re interested in him. The bonus of this approach is, if it turns out he actually does have a girlfriend, it might turn out you get a shot at the wingman.

 

How To Handle An Office Fling

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office flingBeen feeling wildly attracted to a co-worker who gets cow eyed and giggly every time he or she walks into the room? What should you do? Well the answer is simple: YOU DO NOTHING! Flings happen all the time and even more in the office. It would be best if you were to play out all your dreams and fantasies in your head, exhausting every romantic notion you feel creeping into your consciousness. Chances are that the butterflies will come and go keep in mind butterflies, both real and metaphorical, have a short lifespan. Here’s how to handle and office fling.

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1. Stay Professional

You have to stay professional in the workplace. If you start behaving in an unprofessional way, then things can get very bad very quickly. By acting professional, however, you xan keep things in perspective…and make sure you keep your job.

2. Don’t Let Them Walk Over You

Feelings can be taken advantage by some people because of their willingness. It can be tempting to invite your fling for lunch or some coffee, but that is human nature. However your crush might not necessarily feel the same way and might be willing to reap the benefits of the nice gestures you give them.

3. Look The Right Way

Not only should you try to avoid staring all googly eyed at your fling while a work, it is also unprofessional to stare like that. Besides, moody stares can reveal your feelings quicker than anything else.

4. Keep Up With Reality

It is not uncommon at all for someone to begin to fantasize or even dream about their office flame. When spending so much time at work, it is hard not to confuse those fantasies with reality, It is important to keep your feet grounded;moreover; keep your fantasy life completely separate from your work life.

5. Be Realistic

Being realistic to the end is another must. Does your company frown upon dating within the office? Does your fling feel the same way about you; as you do with them? Don’t let you common sense be blurred by your feelings; stay leveled headed and keep everything within a realistic perspective

6. Keep Cool

Always keep your cool when possible. Don’t get giggly, don’t let your crush have that effect over you. If needed, just pretend that your fling isn’t there at all, even more so if you need to keep it at a professional level.

7. Weigh the Consequences

If this is what you think you want from your crush; a relationship, you need to being to think about the consequences. What happens if don’t work out? Will this affect your job? You also need to consider how the working conditions will be during and after the relationship. If there are more cons than pros, again keep your fantasy life completely separate from your working life. At the end most office romances do work, but when they don’t it can get a bit awkward.

Is it a Relationship or Summer Fling?

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Summer is the season for pool parties, barbecues, and trips to the beach. For many single people, it is also an opportunity to have a summer fling. All that outdoor activity and summer fun can get people thinking of romance. Sometimes you meet somebody while you’re both on vacation, and you know in advance that when fall comes, you’ll be heading off to different cities.

Whether you’ll be staying in the same place or not at the end of the summer, the question that may be running through your mind is, “Is this just a summer fling, or could it lead to something more serious?” Here are some clues to look for. No single item is an indicator of a long-term relationship, but these are all positive signs.

1. You really like each other

Aside from the lust involved in a new relationship, do you truly enjoy spending time with each other? Do you truly like each other? It’s actually pretty easy to have a fling with somebody who is fun for awhile, knowing that you don’t really like them enough to make it long term. Think about how you feel, and see what you can tell about how they feel, too. If you both really like each other as people, and enjoy your time together, that’s a good start.

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2. You’re comfortable together

You know how some people always put you a little bit on edge, while other people make you instantly feel relaxed? While there’s a thrill to a fling with somebody in the first category, it doesn’t make for a long term relationship. Can you be yourself, or do you always feel like you’re trying to be something you’re not? For your fling to develop into more, you need to feel easy and comfortable around each other.

3. You both act “lovingly”

Does he do the little things that show he cares, like bringing your favorite wine for a romantic picnic? How about on your side? Did you remember his favorite dessert, and make it for him one evening? They say that actions speak louder than words, and that can be very true here. If you are both taking those steps that show you care about the other person, that is a good sign.

4. You have a rare closeness

This is hard to describe, but once you experience it, you know the feeling. When you’re together, you feel a certain rapport. It’s like a special kind of intimacy, and a shared understanding. Sometimes couples feel this very soon after they meet. For other people, it takes some time to develop. However it happens, this closeness can be a sign that you have something special.

Do you think about the future? When you allow yourself to daydream, do you see the two of you together sometime after summer ends? Has either of you ever mentioned getting together after August, like going to a concert together in November, or what you’re doing for Christmas? Even a casual mention can be a sign that there may be more to your romance than a summer fling.

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5 Ways To Help Your Woman Climax

For guys, it’s easy to take orgasms for granted. After all, the only thing needed is a free hand and a few minutes. But for some girls, it’s not that simple. That’s why we’ve come up with a short list of ways that you can help your girl achieve the ever elusive climax.

Use Foreplay

Many women can achieve an orgasm on their own by master bating so why not help them out? She’ll be happy you’ll be able to observe her technique.

Perform Oral

Some women can’t have an orgasm through oral stimulation alone, but it can’t hurt to try.

Try Different Positions

Many women can’t achieve an orgasm unless they’re in a certain position, which, of course, tends to be their favorite. Make it your mission to find that position.

 

Switch Speeds & Angles

Whether it’s in a car or in the bedroom, guys usually like to go one speed – fast. Switch up your speed as well as the angle of your approach and she’ll find it to be a much better ride.

 

Use Toys

Sex toys don’t have to be a last resort. They can be fun anytime but what better excuse do you need to try them out than to help your girl have a faster, stronger orgasm?